3 Ways To Negotiate Condom Use With Your Partner

 
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We have available in this generation, more avenues and gadgets with which to communicate than ever before. But studies have shown that; in families, the work place, communities and at virtually every level we are interacting and communicating less and less.

This fact is most obvious in romantic relationships. Men and women just do not appear to be talking to each other especially about important relationship issues. Communication, especially about sex and sexual health, can be understandably awkward and difficult. Discussing and practicing safe health however, is integral to any relationship both for birth control purposes and also for protection from Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs).

Condoms are still the most popular and easily available means for practicing safe sex. They are; an effective barrier with 98% effectiveness in preventing unplanned pregnancies and STIs, the most easily reversible method of birth control and have no hormonal side effects. A number of people are however reluctant to use condoms. Some common excuses to avoid using condoms are; I don’t have any infections, you do not trust me, it spoils the mood, we already use another type of contraceptive, If you love me you wouldn’t insist on a condom.

Encouraging your partner to use a condom can appear daunting.
Negotiating condom use in a relationship, for both men and women, is one of those areas where it is often not so much about the idea but more about how you present the idea. In negotiating condom use, there are several strategies that could be used;

• Benefits: This strategy involves explaining the benefits of using condoms to your partner. While this is a logical approach, it has had low success rates in most cases. Perhaps because sex is mostly a spontaneous, emotional exchange not particularly susceptible to logic.

• Eroticism: For this approach condoms are incorporated into sex as an erotic and exciting activity.

• Refusal: One partner simply refuses to have sex if a condom is not used. This strategy can often create resentment from the partner who is being refused sex on the basis of condom use.

Some General Misconceptions/myths about condom Use.

A condom is a mechanical barrier that prevents sexually transmitted infections(such as HIV) and pregnancy by stopping the exchange of body fluids during sexual intercourse.

Condoms have been around for thousands of years – early Egyptians, Greeks and Romans used condoms to prevent pregnancy, using animal intestine or bladder. And modern condoms have been available for more than 100 years.

Despite the widely known uses of condoms and its benefits, Their still exist some general misconceptions/myths about condom use.

Some of the myths and facts about condom use can be seen below:

MYTH: It’s safer if you use two condoms.
FACT: No it isn’t. Using two condoms at once is a really bad idea, whether it’s two male condoms or a male and female condom. the chances of them It increases tearing apart. Only use one condom at a time.

MYTH: Condoms break easily.
FACT: No they don’t. To avoid a condom breaking, you need to put it on carefully, ensuring there’s no air bubble at the end. Be careful of sharp fingernails, jewelry, or teeth. If the condom won’t roll down, it’s on the wrong way. Throw this condom away and start again with a new one, as there could be semen on the tip of the previous condom.

If a condom breaks and you’re not using any other contraception, go to a clinic, pharmacist or doctor as soon as possible and ask about emergency contraception. You’ll also need to get tested for sexually transmitted infections (STIs).

MYTH: You need extra lube. Vaseline is good.
FACT: No it’s not. A bit of extra lubrication is good but don’t use anything with oil in it as it can dissolve the condom – that includes baby oil, Vaseline and hand cream. If you must use additional lubricant Use a water-based lubricant like “Lubrica” or silicone based lubrication. Most  condoms are pre-lubricated for enhanced pleasure.

MYTH:Lubricated(Oiled ) Condoms gives infections.

FACT:The oil(Lubricant) found in most condoms functions to reduce  friction during sex and helps avoid condom breakages.

MYTH: Condom can be washed and Re-Used

FACT:Not True, both male and female condoms can only be used once, washing of condoms will lead to wear and tear, which will compromise the intergrity of the condom rendering them less effective in preventing STIs/HIV and pregnancy. “SINGLE USE ONLY”

MYTH: Sex with Condoms is less Enjoyed
FACT: Using a condom doesn’t have to spoil the moment. Condom use can make some men last longer before they come, which is good news for both of you. Condom use also makes sexual intercourse more enjoyable for both partners because of less fear of contacting STIs, HIV and unplanned Pregnancy.